Finding a Home in Sydney

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Let's start with the four, steely-eyed Cambodian men, desperately wanting to cave my head in with empty beer bottles clutched tighly in their grips.   Frankly, it wasn't in the spirit of Christmas, but seeing as they were Buddhist and I am Jewish, perhaps the good ol' Xmas cheer didn't apply.   Given Cambodia's torrid history, it is quite probable that these men had been kiddie killers in their Khmer Rouge past, so when I tossed their beach table into the fire, I might have stoked old passions of violence.   The flames danced higher and higher, and things were starting to get a little too hot for comfort.

 

The Christmas Eve party at Utopia and The Tent on Sihanoukville's squeaky-white beach was rocking at Full Power.   By 3am, several hundred travellers had consumed copious amounts of eggnog substitute (i.e. beer, vodka, whiskey), the music rotated between new dance and that wonderful oxymoron of old modern rock, and one more moron, myself, was getting a little too close to the fire.  I don't know where my pyromaniac tendencies come from, but ever since I almost burnt down a friend's house as a seven-year-old, I've had this fiery attraction to big flames.   Adding alcohol to any flame is a bad idea, so the dozen or so vodka-redbulls I had drunk was only asking for trouble.   After attempting to firedance, including one spectacular maneuver involving putting out a flaming stick on my rib-cage, the bonfire had gradually eaten through its logs and was in risk of dying.  I could not face the prospect of the fire's demise, which would quickly end the party, so I looked at the first thing around me that would burn, which happened to be a wooden table.   I didn't think anyone would notice my deft lift-and-lurch of the furniture into the fire, even when I picked up the kerosene bottle and poured enough lighter fluid on the fire to create a fireball you could see from space. 

 

'Now that's a FIRE!' I screamed to general applause, which is quite possibly why I didn't hear or see the Cambodian proprietors of the The Tent appear from the darkness with bottles, hell-bent on revenge.    I was quickly surrounded, but fortunately for me The Tent's owner was a cute Australian named Belinda who preferred reason to blood.   I apologized for being a complete dink, received a stern lecture in the value of property in a poor country, the personal pride Cambodian's take in their establishments, and why I'd probably be dead by now if she hadn't been around.    We quickly got chatting about opening beach bars, Cambodian corruption, dirty tricks by competitors, music, my three sentences to finish, and by the time it was all done, even Belinda agreed that the fire looked pretty cool.   The Cambodians backed away, but kept their cold eyes fixed on me all evening.   A few minutes later I was skinny dipping with friends under the stars in a warm sea, and the incident was over.    It was without doubt the best Christmas Eve ever.   

'You have no idea how close you came to getting killed,' explained Belinda the following day, as I dropped off a whack of new tunes to keep The Tent rocking in its post-Modern Gonzo future.   'These guys wanted to bottle your head in.  In fact they still do.'     With that being the case, I hopped on the back of the motorbike and told the driver to hightail it up the beach where I could ponder my latest near-death experience with a cold beer, gentle massage, and the sound of the sea lapping up on the sand as gentle as a kitten laps milk.   

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Less than two days later, a quad-bike ran me down on Sydney's infamous Bondi Beach.   'For chrissakes, you guys are LIFEguards,' I said, picking myself up from the sand and disentangling my legs from the front axel.   I was playing Frisbee with my back to the vehicle, and I had just managed to make out the panic in the eyes of Sean the Frisbee chucker when the bike slammed into my back.   It had surfboards attached on either side and was driven by two hunky lifeguards in red speedos.   Near Death by Hasselhoff, it sounds like a cheap cologne.   I was too shaken to get to the bottom of how exactly they managed to pilot their rocketship into my bodily planet, but it probably had to do with the fact that we were surrounded by dozens of tanned girls in an assortment of make-believe bikinis.  Catching a Frisbee is difficult when you're trying to figure out if the bevies of nearby blondes are actually wearing anything.  Are those translucent straps real, or merely a figment of my pervy imagination?   The lifeguard was probably thinking the same thing, which is why he drove straight into me.  Fortunately my injuries consisted of no more than a few bashes, quickly anesthetized through the distraction of delicious voyeurism.   You may as well call Bondi Beach the blonde Copacabana.  

 

I had left Sihanoukville, Cambodia at 7am the previous day, bidding an emotional farewell to my old-new friends, climbing on the back of a motorbike taxi, my backpack between the legs of the driver.   Four hours on a bus, five hours waiting at Phnom Penh airport, two hours on a plane to Kuala Lumpur, go through Malaysian customs, get my pack, go back through Malaysian customs again, check-in for my flight to Sydney, no I don't have a visa for Australia (I need a visa for Australia?), but the flight is leaving in 45 minutes, that's OK you can get it downstairs, hello sir, Merry Xmas, don't worry we'll sort this out right away (wow, I forgot how friendly and efficient Malaysians are), her hands are dancing on that keyboard and then she tells me that her friend two terminals over thinks I'm cute (do I have to leave?) and that's sorted and now I'm on an eight hour flight with 20 movies and 100 TV shows on demand and I don't want to sleep because I just want to watch them all.   By the time we arrive, I've caught up on CSI, the football premiership, the news, Wallace and Gromit, the latest album releases, and the secrets of Cairo. 

 

Welcome to Australia. 

 

I had arrived just in time for a family reunion of sorts; aunts and uncles and cousins, some of whom I had never met, some of whom I had last seen fifteen years ago when I lived in South Africa.  Early morning clouds had burned away to reveal a clear, blue sky. My cousin Lance drove me through Sydney's eastern suburbs, past the beaches of Maroubra, Coogie and Bondi.  I was deeply upset.   Sydney is often compared to Vancouver and Cape Town, and these three coastal cities are usually cited as the three best cities in the world.    Every time someone mentions Sydney in Vancouver, I find myself getting on the defensive.   'But look at our mountains!'    So driving past these gorgeous, packed sandy beaches, the funky restaurants and bars, the winding streets along the dramatic cliffs, I had to swallow a bitter pill of reality.   Sydney is everything they say it is - absolutely beautiful.    

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'Look, we pay for it,' explains Gary, an old friend from high school who moved to Australia twelve years ago.  'Sydney is not cheap, but look at the quality of our lives, look at the weather!'    It was another blue-sky day, and any time anyone tries to trump Sydney with another city, Sydneysiders, as they are known, have an ace up their sleeve.   Weather.   Hot, dry, often.  It's Rio without the political, criminal and socio-political mayhem.  It's Vancouver, a lot bigger with better beaches and without the rain. I could go on but we just drove past some girls who seem to be clad in bikinis made of guitar strings.  

 

Australia is an island posing as a country posing as a continent.  There are only twenty million people, most of whom live by the sea, and as the sixth largest country in the world, it is difficult to imagine just how big and empty the land is.   New South Wales has some six million people, and just about every one of them seemed to be tanning on Bondi Beach.  'There was a fourteen-foot shark sighted the other day, and I heard they had to pull about fifty thousand people from the waters,' explains Lance.    Even though the last fatal shark attack in Sydney took place in the 1960's, I made a mental note to scan the horizons for fins before dipping any toes in the warm Pacific.   If the spiders don't get me first.   The fact is, there are more things that can kill you in Australia than anywhere else;   spiders, snakes, sharks, gators, the ozone-less sun, not to mention distracted

lifeguards.   I narrowly avoided walking into a monster black spider, swinging by its web in the cool, breezy night.   'Oh that's small,' says Lance, taking a wide berth.   But with Australia's famous hole in its ozone, it's quite possible the critter was radioactive. 

 

The family barbie was warm and delicious and if Sydney is not my home, it immediately felt like one.  My great-aunt and uncle, neither of whom I had ever met, invited me to stay in their lovely penthouse with a fantastic view over the Eastern suburbs.    With thousands of South Africans relocated in Sydney, I was bumping into old friends I hadn't seen since high school in Johannesburg.   South Africa were playing Australia in a five-day cricket test match, which is the equivalent of a Canada-US ice-hockey series, and the whole sunny lifestyle left me a little homesick, a perfect combination of my formative years in South Africa and the last decade in Canada.    Damn these colonial hangovers!   

 

At the bars of Bondi, I saw thousands of backpackers, hurting on $6 beers (that's more than SIX times what I paid three days ago in Cambodia), sunburn and quasi-serious dress codes.   I went for an all-day stroll into the city, starting at Circular Quay, looking out on 'the most beautiful harbour in the world.'   I use quotes because I've read that phrase so many times in the last few days, but I reserve judgment until I've seen every harbour for myself.   Turning the corner and seeing the Opera House gave me a thrill, like witnessing the Statue of Liberty for the first time.   It was the perfect 'here-I-am-on-the-other-side-of-the-world' moment.   The Opera House took 15 years to build on the site of an old tram garage, and the design was chosen from a competition of entries.  Unfortunately, the Danish designer was a poor architect, so by the time the impressive cones were finished, it was nearly one hundred million dollars over budget, taken a decade longer than planned, and toppled at least one government from the resulting scandal.    Today, it is Australia's most famous landmark, so I guess it was worth it in the end.  Tourists were gawking on the steps, and I had to wonder just how many of them had ever seen or enjoyed the opera.  I don't.  I even took a course of opera appreciation at university, but it's still a lot of melodramatic screeching to my rock n'roll ears.   A few steps away, some aboriginals were playing the didgeridoo, painted in white stripes to the delight of tourists.  Like Vancouver's First Nations, it is ironic how the defeated native populations of the colonies have been forced into caricatures of themselves.   Australia's aboriginal history is full of horrific bloodshed, with entire tribes massacred in its early years, pushed up north leaving states like New South Wales and Queensland relatively pearly white.   More on that later, but it's worth noting that the aboriginal art on sale in the quaint shops of The Rocks heritage district sells for a bucket.  

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I walked along the seawall to the stunning Botanical Gardens, with its monstrously disfigured fig trees.   The view of the Opera House and enormous Harbour Bridge demanded photo after photo.  The ubiquitous Australian sticky fly kept buzzing into my ears and nose, like fanatic cave explorers.   Into the city, up George Street, down Pitt, shops bustling, the epitome of modern civilization.   It could have been downtown Vancouver.   Sushi was too expensive (no, not Vancouver after all) so I attacked my first gourmet pies.  Sundowners at the Opera House, the beers flow, smartly-tartly dressed crowds.   A walk to Cockle Bay, which strikingly resembled the development along the Burrard Inlet of Vancouver. 

'The only way I can make sense of this,' I tell Gary, 'is to compare it to Vancouver.   They're practically identical.  You may have the weather, but we have the seasons, the snow, the mountains, and also, a lot less obnoxious Australians.'      They're a loud and proud and jolly lot, passionate about sport and beer, and these days, the evolution of their culture.  A few weeks ago, the world saw rioting on the beaches of Sydney, as thousands of whites attacked men of 'Lebanese descent' following the knifing of a Sydney lifeguard, who just may have incited this racial conflict by running over a Lebanese guy with his quad-bike because both of them were too busy staring at Sally from Bondi and her bikini made of nothing.  The conflict blew up between gangs, but was politicized by Australia's extreme right into an emigration issue and by Islamic fundamentalists into a religious one. It was quickly squashed by thousands of coppers and a total crackdown, but the tension between Sydney's rapidly growing Muslim population and locals is boiling over.  Like many other parts of the world, the Muslim community's resistance to integration, coupled with the unfortunate fundamentalism of a small minority, is causing havoc with working-class whites, threatened by their own ignorance.   Australians, for their part, have a history of racial intolerance.  'What upsets me most,' says Gary, 'is the racist bullshit I was emailed by people who should really know better.  We're all Australians, we're just going to have to learn to live with each other.'      

 

On a perfect blue sky day with a cool breeze blowing in from the sea, it's hard to imagine anyone could get upset about anything in this part of the world.  Other than South Africa's miserable performance in the Melbourne Test series.   I've got tickets to the match next week in Sydney, and then I have to get out of here fast, before I forget where my home is. 

 

The Apartment of Sol and Miriam Ende

Coogie Bay, Sydney

30 December, 2005

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